The following is an interview I conducted with my 7-year-old, neurotypical brother. My objective was to gain a fuller understanding of his day-to-day life and of his relationship with his brother, who is a mere 17 months older than him and has Autism.
May all of us move toward greater respect for and understanding of one another.
Q1: Tell me about you.
A1: I like to build, play with my friends, and play with my brother. I like to watch superhero shows, Star Wars shows, and just anything that has a lot of action. I like action. I like superhero Legos, Star Wars Legos, and all kinds of Legos. The only [Legos] I don’t really like are Lego City Legos, because they’re just a little bit boring to me. Also, little boys are just superheroes in disguise. I can’t clean my room AND save the world. Can any kid do that? And I’ve gone to Disneyland before; that’s another thing about me. I like to read; I like to do crafts. I like to learn stuff before mom teaches me it, just like [she taught] you! You like to ask questions, too, just like me. I have a super amazing brother-in-law. And the most important thing is to spend time with your family.
Q2: Tell me about your family.
A2: My oldest brother is twenty; he likes video games and he likes building. My sister Samantha…[laughter]…she’s a really teasing person! My dad…whenever I come home with a friend, he always hides behind a bush and then sounds like a dog or a werewolf trying to scare me! My mom…she’s the most loving person in the world. And I am so loving to her! And she loves the whole entire family. My sister Kate…she got married last year to this person named Aaron! Kate likes reading boring books, and she likes spending time with her family. And Aaron, on the other hand, likes video games and building with Legos, just like me! And he likes jumping on the trampoline with me and my other brother, and he also likes playing outside: football, tennis, baseball, and also soccer. He is kind of an athletic person. And that’s all I have to say about my family.
Q3: Tell me about your brother JD.
A3: Well, he has a little bit of a hard time understanding. He can’t understand feelings; he can’t. His brain doesn’t talk to his muscles the same way that our brains do. So when we are just play fighting, he actually fights. And he has been wandering sometimes, and he has been destroying my stuff, and now we need to put a lock on my door because he has been destroying so many things. He dumped out a whole box of action figures and Legos, and he might have stolen something from my wallet, but I don’t know yet. And a little bit of the time, he shares toys. He’s a loving brother. And that’s all I have to say about JD!
Q4: Tell me about your average day.
A4: My average day is playing with one friend or two friends, and I always build once or twice a day. I always make a craft once or twice a day, and I always make a robot maybe once a week. I build things out of stuff from the recycling bin. Look, I built a robot on the way in! [Shows me his robot.] I always watch TV on my big iPad, and mostly every single morning I eat yogurt for breakfast. That’s all about my average days!
Q5: What do you like to do outside?
A5: I like to go through the slide, and it’s kind of twisty! It sometimes makes me kind of going to throw up! I like to play on the swings. I like to jump on the trampoline. I like to ride bikes with my friends, and I like to ride scooters. Did I already say I like to jump on the trampoline? I did? Ok. Oh, I like to play football! I like to run in our big backyard. I like to play in our sandbox. And that’s it!
Q6: What is your biggest fear?
A6: One of my biggest fears is JD going to [residential treatment]. And I’ve kind of grown out of my fear of being in a dark room. I just overcame it. I have a fear of my brother JD destroying my Lego sets, because then all of my Lego sets would be destroyed, and I would have to build them again, and that would take a very, very long time. And I don’t have another fear.
Q7: How do you feel about JD possibly going back to the hospital?
A7: Happy and sad. You know why? Because he needs residential treatment. But I know he’s going to come home and then go back like two days later. Nothing works for him! We’ve tried new meds, we’ve tried new therapy, and nothing works! And when he’s at the hospital, I can build Legos in the loft without him destroying them. And now that mom and dad are putting a lock on my door, I can hide in my room when he has meltdowns instead of hiding in mom and dad’s room.
If you have a sibling interview you would like to share, please comment on this post or email me at siblingsofautistickids@yahoo.com.
Much love,
Kate